15 Things I Wish I Didn’t Forget

September 18, 2014 — Leave a comment

This is a list of reminders to myself:

  1. Always say “yes” to the present moment. You cause yourself an unnecessary amount of suffering by resisting what is. If you just accepted it or took action, you would save yourself a lot of mental energy.

  2. Therefore, cultivating mindfulness through meditation is one of the best uses of your time.

  3. At the same time, set giant goals but make sure your happiness in the present is not compromised. If you don’t take action towards your goals daily evaluate your effort, but don’t judge yourself.

  4. You can control your effort. Focus on that. Don’t worry about what you can’t control. This is easy to understand rationally, but emotionally it’s much more difficult. This is why you should meditate and read the stoics.

  5. Realize you are going to die. Meditate on this daily. Then wake up. You could find out that one of your organs is failing and you have 6 months left. How would that change things? What would you avoid/not waste time on? Then realize that your organs are failing. You are going to die.

  6. Get over your “self” and the mindless chatter. Let the little things that don’t matter go. Get over “injustices” committed to you.

  7. Daily practice is the key to success regardless of whether it’s in the area of health, wealth, or spirituality.

  8. Solitude teaches you about yourself. Embrace it. How does it feel to be alone? How do you deal with self-doubt?

  9. On the other hand, don’t try to do everything alone. Spend time with people who are much smarter/more competent than you. You should never be the smartest in the room.

  10. It’s great that you are growing, but don’t seek approval for your realizations. Just try and help people if they are ready to receive it.

  11. College is not where you really grow. The real world is. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you should drop out.

  12. True confidence is about peeling back layers and being more vulnerable, not trying to project something you’re not. And to get there it takes a lot of experiences that make you feel completely naked.

  13. Whatever you are afraid of you should do first in the morning. Devote your routine to enabling you to do this. Nothing is more important.

  14. Everything you tell yourself is a story — a part of a culturally and socially conditioned narrative. Learn to see the stories you tell yourself. Then you gain access to real insight. Sometimes stories can be empowering, sometimes they are harmful delusions.

  15. You are the most content when spend you spend your day doing activities that will bring you closer to your long term goals.

Hafiz Dhanani